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Either you DO or you DON'T
Relationships these days aren't what they used to be, and no matter how much you tell yourself that your relationship is an exception, chances are either one of you isn't being totally honest with the other about your true feelings.
After watching Dr.Phil today, I realized that the "Honeymoon" stage is aptly named. When you meet someone for the first time, there's that RUSH of emotions. The faster heartbeat, the anxiety to see them again, the desire that overcomes your every waking thought. The feeling of emptiness when they're not around...and the need to be close to them when they are.
It's a beautiful feeling... sadly though, one I'm trying hard to remember. I have been in love. I have felt all those emotions, but I'm left wondering if they were the "REAL" thing.
I am single and on the dating scene. I am on a dating website (which I won't name) and seeing more and more obviously unhappily married guys, looking for something "discreet". Status saying something like...."In a relationship, but not happy. Looking for a good time girl, no strings" And of course, there are women on there too looking for the same thing. This is what I don't understand...Why is it so hard to end the relationship, before you go looking elsewhere? Why continue on in a relationship, when clearly you're not in love with that person. OK it becomes harder when there are children involved, and everyone Say's..."I'm staying for the kids". Staying for WHAT??? What do the children gain from seeing two parents unhappy and fighting? How does it benefit them? And how do they learn to resolve conflict when they are in the line of fire?
I have been in this position twice, and both times I made the decision to get out of the relationship and give us both the chance to move on with our lives, in hope that we would be able to come to some amicable agreement where the child was concerned. Of course that is not always possible, as emotions and spite take over the logical thinking process and things get ugly!
In the case of two people who are in a relationship and the spark has just GONE...what's left to hang on to? Why put yourself through the emotional stress of trying to get back what is lost. Again I'm speaking very generally, as I respect there are different circumstances in different relationships, and some people think it's totally worth the fight to stay together. I'm a big believer in the old saying "If you love someone set them free" and I think the best way to know if it's true love is to first lose it. "You don't know what you've lost until it's gone"....
Cliche... I know, but it made you think didn't it? If not, maybe you should think about it if you are in that position. You owe it first of all to yourself to be 100% happy and you owe it to the other person involved. After all you DID love each other at some stage!